Returning to the world of dating and courting is not so easy when, as a complement to your mind, beauty and charm comes a child or two. When to start your search? How to explain to your children that you are looking for a new daddy? When to introduce a potential chosen one? A few tips to help you get oriented on how to start a new relationship when you are a single parent.
How do you know if you’re ready to date? Whether it’s six months after your divorce or six years, there’s no right time to start dating other men.
Instead of wondering “when?”, it is better to ask yourself “why?
Why do you want to start dating? What are you looking for? Not all empty spaces in our lives can be filled with romantic relationships. If you want to get out of the house, call your girlfriends and walk around at least all night. If you want your heart to beat faster, try cardio training – it’s checked, it helps. It is unreal to expect from meeting a man to meet all your needs, and besides, this approach will surely make you wrong in your choice.
How only you have decided that you are ready for a date, it may turn out that the universe is determined against you – in your busy schedule there is not a single extra minute. Well, it’s time to attract family, relatives, friends and neighbors from the ground floor. If you want to meet, you need to find windows and organize these days to look after your children. Who knows, maybe even your ex-husband will come to the aid. After all, he does not need to know exactly what you are going to do on Saturdays.
Where to look?
It must be admitted that the method of finding a partner has changed a lot since you met the father of your children. You are older, probably wiser, and there are those for whom you are responsible. Alas, you can’t meet like you did in a carefree younger years, flirting with everyone. It is better to start looking for people who have similar hobbies with you. Go to an English club, join fans of horse riding or poetry evenings. If such events seem boring to you, turn your eyes to dating on the Internet. They are funny, flirty and unobtrusive. A great way to get used to the idea of looking for love without any pressure.
When to announce that you have children?
The fact that you are a parent is noteworthy. You don’t have to make a secret out of it. However, there is absolutely no need to paint your children in detail, to tell about the involvement of the father in the process of raising children, to remember the divorce and so on.